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Monday, 5 January 2015

Give Yourself One Good Year!

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Louis Sheppard had gotten too big. He knew it, and those around him knew it. This 39-year-old financial advisor also knew all too well the risks that came along with his size. But knowing it wasn’t going to change it.


Just a couple of weeks into his latest gym experiment, he got the ultimate wake-up call when his childhood friend passed away unexpectedly. Suddenly, a goal came into focus: “Just give myself one good year,” Louis told himself. For 365 days, he would put his ego aside, follow proven training plans to the letter, eat right, and live the healthiest lifestyle he could manage. He also had a nice, round number in mind: 100 pounds of weight loss.




Before


After


AGE 39 / HEIGHT 5’10″ / BODY FAT 37.4%


AGE 40 / HEIGHT 5’10″ / BODY FAT 28.5%





Louis Sheppard
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Let’s ask the question you must hear all the time: How did you do it?


It took a fundamental change. You can’t just expect it to happen—even the mental part. The real question is: Why did I get to 350 pounds?


Turns out it was pretty easy. You’re trying to take care of the house and your family, and you want to make sure you’re making enough money to keep the roof over your head—because maybe you’re living check to check, and are a paycheck away from losing everything. You want to keep the lights on, make sure the food is on the table, and protect your family from harm. So you’ve got all of this going on, and what happens? You forget about who you are.


Think of it like this: When you get on the airplane, they say, “If we lose cabin pressure, the yellow mask is going to come down. Put on yours first, then help secure [your children] next.” That’s a simple concept, but we’re not doing it right. Why are we not securing our health first before we’re taking care of others?


It’s just so easy to try to help somebody else, because we’re taught to help somebody else out. When it’s yourself, you’re taught to stay humble and always give, but you have to give here first. You have to think about yourself, because if you don’t do that, how can you take care of everyone else? If I’m dead, what will that do to my kids?


Of course, I also got married, so I was off the market—hey, I was comfortable. My playing jersey is up on the rafters! So what happens when you’re comfortable? You’re not going to wear your best outfit all the time. You’re going to wear sweatpants. And what happens with the sweats? We all know. It’s not like regular pants, where they stop. Nope, sweatpants just keep growing with you. They’re like, “Oh yeah, keep going. We’ve got extra room!”


What made this all come into focus for you?


A friend of mine told me, “Look, you are too big. You didn’t move out here (to Idaho) this big.” It was just a comment, but it broke down the mental portion that I just couldn’t get past. Sure, I’d had gym memberships before, but they were really just bills. They were just taking my money. It was the one expense I could always justify.


Then everything changed when I was on your website, and I saw the guy. Same exact height, same weight, everything—he was me. That’s what I was looking for. I’d been asking myself, “Is this really possible? Can I drop 100 pounds?” But when I saw him, it made perfect sense.


His story was that he was on the couch eating chips with his family, and he made the choice to change. And as I’m reading it I was like, “Holy crap, this is me.” Then I saw the 7-Day Beginner Trainer. My wife and I read it, and it said to get a gym membership. This was a Friday—I remember it like it was yesterday. We went into Axiom Fitness that Saturday morning and got a membership. It felt good because I did something.


The next Monday, I walked into a neighborhood to build up my business and knock on a couple of doors. It turned out that the neighbor of one of the houses I went to was the guy who signed me up at the gym. He was coming out and going to work. He asked, “What are you doing here?” and then he said, “Oh, I’ll see you at the gym today.”


If I hadn’t seen him that day, I don’t know if I would have gone that day. But I said, “Yeah, you will!” I believe it was a divine moment to get me to go that one day.


“I did 20 minutes of cardio. I told myself, ‘I’m good,’ and I just kept going.”


Your good friend died just a couple of weeks later. How did that affect your quest?


We were childhood friends, and I remember the moment when I saw his casket. He was 37, and I was like, “You’re a big boy. Damn, I’m big, too.” And his face changed to my face.


At the time, I was 39. My dad died at 39. I was thinking, “I’m about to be 40. I’m going to be the first male in my family who hits 40. Maybe I’m going to die at 43—that’s only 3 years.” All of that was in my mind.


So after his wake, I went down to the small gym in the hotel. They had those little adjustable dumbbells, and man, I hit it. It wasn’t a big workout. I couldn’t do everything that I wanted to, but I did something. And then I did 20 minutes of cardio. I told myself, “I’m good,” and I just kept going.


Those are some big ideas to be carrying around in your first weeks of training.


Yeah! I just wanted to stay alive. My friend had a son, and he only saw him for one week—that’s in my mind. My dad’s in my mind. My birthday’s coming up. All of this is in my mind and I’m just like, “I’m going to do whatever it takes.”


So I made working out and health the number one priority for the family. I said, “This is going to be our number one thing for one year. After that, who cares? But let’s see if we can just stay on a path of health for one good year. If we can do it for one good year, maybe we can do it for two.”


“Let’s see if we can just stay on a path of health for one good year. If we can do it for one good year, maybe we can do it for two.”


Think of it like a millionaire would. If somebody makes a million dollars and loses it, they still believe they can make a million dollars, because it’s already been done. I’m doing something I’ve never done before, but I know if I can give myself one good year, who knows what could happen? Because it has already been proved to me that it can be done.


I looked at that Bodybuilding.com article again, and I was like, “Yeah, if you did it, I can do it.” I needed an example. That’s why most people fail: They don’t have that example. Either that, or they fail because they think they can do it better.


We were never going to reinvent the wheel. It was right there on the page, broken down to the 7-day program, and then a 12-week program. And I said to my wife, “This is how we’re going to do it. I don’t care how we used to work out. The fact that we are both overweight is a problem. Whatever worked for us then isn’t working now. We’re going to go in there as stupid as can be. We’re not going to think. We’re just going to listen, read, watch the videos, and do it—even with the supplements.”


That’s all it was. I’m a follower, because that’s how you become successful: just look at successful people. When they tell you “This is how to do it,” why wouldn’t you do it that way? It’s not rocket science.


For two whole months, you were right at 275 pounds. How did you deal with that?


I didn’t worry, because I knew change was happening. Being a financial advisor, this is what I tell my clients:



“Here’s your plan. This is how you’re going to invest your money, and this is what’s going to happen: You’re going to have good months, bad months, and sometimes you’re going to have a month that doesn’t do anything. Just follow the plan.”


Now I’m going into my trainer’s office, and he’s telling me the same thing. How can I tell people to listen to me and my advice on a plan if I’m not going to listen to him?


That mentality of “I can do it better” is what kills most people. Why? This person already did it. Why are you trying to reinvent the wheel? The wisdom that I always try to give my kids is, don’t be afraid to ask for help. And if that help comes to you, don’t question it—just roll with it. Because obviously that person is in your life for a reason. They already did it for you not to struggle.


When you see a picture of the old you, how do you view that guy?


I’m mad. Anger comes up first. How the hell did I do this? But understanding comes next, because I know how I got there. So I could focus on the anger all day long, or I could focus on the understanding of what’s behind it.


I really do understand myself more now. I see how weight issues affect your life issues, and your health affects how you perceive life. Today, you can look at me and say, “He has confidence. He’s disciplined. He’s consistent. He takes risks. He’s a man of his word.” All of these attributes that I have, you can see them now. But no one saw it back then, because I was big.


All of these attributes became visible when I went from there to here. I got a client just because I achieved this weight loss. He was like, “Anyone that can go from there to where you’re at is who I want controlling my money.”


How is eating different for you now?


I’m conscious now about what I eat. It’s a conscious thing. Like last night, we had pizza. We used to buy two boxes of pizza for the four of us. Now we get one, and everybody gets two pieces. This is the normalcy of eating. This is how you enjoy pizza. I don’t need two boxes. What the hell was I buying two boxes of pizza for? The kids only eat one or two slices, so everything else is just my wife and me? Wait a minute, something is wrong.


We had to retrain my son to eat, because I messed him up. He didn’t like eating greens or eating healthy. Now he says, “Is this healthy? Can I eat this? I want to eat some greens.” And I’m like “You do? Why? I mean, OK!”


Looking back at what you did, is it easier or harder than people think?


It’s easy if you break it down into small intervals like I did, and it’s easy once this (points to head) is involved. If [your head"s] not involved, it’s the hardest thing in the world. I couldn’t even go to the gym because of this.


But when it finally happened, it was like flipping on a light. When it’s dark, the light comes on as fast as that. You can do that! “I want to lose weight.” Boom! Make that switch.


Is the gym a happy place for you?


Yeah. The gym is the only thing that I can control. I can’t control anything else. Everybody else owns my time—my family, my clients, traffic. Life has your time.


When I’m in the gym, I can control when I start, when I end, and how much I put on. I say what I can and can’t do. I used to wear headphones in there, but I stopped that a long time ago. I saw a picture from 1974, with all these guys in the gym compared to 2014, of how people are in the gym. They didn’t have technology, they didn’t have music. They just got their train on!


What do you say to someone who says, “I just don’t have the time to do what he did”?


It’s one percent of your time. Give me a break.


You can find any excuse in the world not to go—I know, because I did. Come on, you’re not that busy. Don’t tell me you don’t have time. You just haven’t made time. It’s the same with finances. “Oh I don’t have money to invest,” but you were out on Black Friday and dropped $ 500 on a TV. How does that work?


So don’t tell me you don’t have money. Don’t tell me you don’t have time. You just haven’t made it a priority in your life.




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Monday, 29 December 2014

15 Toxic Beliefs You Should Give Up to Be Happy

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15 Toxic Beliefs You Should Give Up to Be Happy
The Mind Unleashed
on 29 December, 2014

There are so many limiting and toxic beliefs we hold on to, beliefs that keep us from living the happy, joyful and meaningful life we all deserve to live.


And by giving up on them, by letting go of all the extra baggage that is weighting us down, we allow ourselves to be happy. And we give life permission to shower us with the many wonderful and precious gifts it has to offer. So without further adieu, I say, give up and be happy. Let’s begin…


1. I am not enough


Give up this limiting and toxic belief of you not being enough – “good enough”, “smart enough”, “rich enough:, “beautiful enough”, etc. Remind yourself as often as possible that who you are is more than enough.


Place your hands over your heart, take a few cleansing breaths and repeat these words to yourself: “Who I am is enough. Who I am is more than enough. Not because of how my life looks externally, but because of who I truly am internally.”


2. I’ve lost my purpose in life


Your purpose isn’t something that you will ever lose since your purpose is part of who you are. Your purpose is in your heart, is within you. And as long as you will be still breathing and still living on this planet, your purpose will be living as well. So stop looking looking for your purpose out there and look for it within instead. Because that’s where you’ll find your purpose. Your purpose is where you left it.


3. Better to be one of the herd than to be called a “weirdo”


Give up the toxic belief about you having to be like everyone else, and dare to be authentically yourself. Be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else. Instead of going where everyone is going, and doing what everyone else is doing, choose to do what you know in your heart is best for you. Go where your Soul needs you to go, and not where the herd expects you to go.


4. I can’t allow myself to feel vulnerable


Give up all your masks and costumes. Tear down all the walls you have built to hide and numb yourself. Remove all the barriers between you and everyone else and allow yourself to be fully seen. Reveal yourself to those around you and allow yourself to be truly loved. Get comfortable with your perfect imperfections and never deny your vulnerability.


5. I lack the necessary formal education


Give up this limiting and toxic belief about you not being able to move forward in life because you lack the necessary formal education. Never allow the absence of a high-school, college or university degree to keep you from pursuing your dreams. If you are truly passionate about something, and if your know in your heart that you’re meant to do that work, with or without a degree, you’ll find a way to make it happen.


“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m possible’!” ~ Audrey Hepburn


6. I can’t be happy until I get there


How many people postpone their happiness because they wait for something magical to happen to them?


Happiness is not a destination, happiness is a journey. So give up this idea about happiness being somewhere in the future. Give up this idea about you not being able to be happy until you reach a certain destination, or until you cross all the things off your to-do list, and learn to be happy here and now.


“Many people think that if they were only in some other place, or had some other job, they would be happy. Well, that is doubtful. So get as much happiness out of what you are doing as you can and don’t put off being happy until some future date.” ~ Dale Carnegie


7. Life is hard, oh, so hard


Give up this limiting belief about life being hard, cruel and hostile, and instead embrace life as it is. Trust in the wisdom of life. Trust that maybe life knows a lot more than you do. Look beyond the surface. Seek to learn from every experience life sends your way, and trust that life will always give you the experience that’s most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness.


“Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.” ~ Eckhart Tolle


8. My parents are to blame for everything


Give up this idea that your parents are to blame for everything that has gone wrong in your life. Stop giving your power away to forces outside of you and learn to take responsibility for your life.


“There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you.” ~ J.K. Rowling


9. I don’t need anyone to help me, I can do it all by myself


Give up this limiting and toxic belief about how asking for help and opening yourself up to receiving other people’s help and assistance is a sign of weakness, something only weak people do. Drop your “I don’t need anyone to help me. I’m a strong and independent person, I can do it all by myself” attitude and learn to graciously ask for, and receive help. Not because you can’t do it on your own, but because you are wise enough to understand that asking for help is one of the bravest and most courageous things a strong and independent person can do.


“One of the greatest barriers to connection is the cultural importance we place on ‘going it alone.’ Somehow we’ve come to equate success with not needing anyone. Many of us are willing to extend a helping hand, but we’re very reluctant to reach out for help when we need it ourselves. It’s as if we’ve divided the world into ‘those who offer help’ and ‘those who need help.’” The truth is that we are both.” ~ Brené Brown


10. Love is too painful, I’m done with it


Love doesn’t hurt, expectations do. So give up the idea that love hurts and that you’re better off without it. Nobody’s better off without love, and deep down inside you know this to be true. We are all made of love and made to love. Love isn’t something you can ever give up on, since love is life and life is love. And if you give up on love, you give up on life.


11. I can’t be happy unless I’m in a relationship


Never make your happiness dependent on another person. Never use the absence of a relationship as a justification for why you can’t be happy here and now. Give up this toxic and limiting belief and learn to be happy no matter what… with or without a romantic partner.


“Happiness comes from within. It is not dependent on external things or on other people. You become vulnerable and can be easily hurt when your feelings of security and happiness depend on the behavior and actions of other people. Never give your power to anyone else.” ~ Brian L. Weiss


12. It’s too late for me to pursue my dreams


It’s never too late to reignite your passion for work, for life and for love. It’s never too late to set a new intention and dream another dream. So give up the idea of you being too old to do the things your ageless soul wants you to do, and dare to honor your inner truth. Always remember that age is nothing but “an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” ~ Mark Twain


13. I will never be a fully functioning person, not after all that I’ve been through


Give up the toxic belief that you and your past are one; give up the limiting belief that the story of your past has to be the story of your life. Be an alchemist. Look for ways to turn your wounds into wisdom and your difficulties into opportunities. Make your life story worth telling, and never allow your history keep you from creating your own destiny.


“It’s being here now that’s important. There’s no past and there’s no future. Time is a very misleading thing. All there is ever, is the now. We can gain experience from the past, but we can’t relive it; and we can hope for the future, but we don’t know if there is one.” ~ George Harrison


14. I can’t trust anyone, not even myself


Give up this limiting and toxic belief that you can’t be trusted, that the people around you can’t be trusted, and that life itself can’t be trusted. We all make mistakes, none of us is perfect, but that doesn’t mean we can no longer trust in one another. That doesn’t mean that you yourself can’t trust yourself and that life itself can’t be trusted. Always remember that trust is the glue of life. It’s the glue that that holds us all together. And where there is no trust, there is no life.


15. I’m all alone


Give up this limiting and toxic belief of you being all alone. You are never alone. You never were and you never will be. In a world full of people, you will never be all alone, unless you choose to think otherwise.


“I am never alone wherever I am. The air itself supplies me with a century of love. When I breathe in, I am breathing in the laughter, tears, victories, passions, thoughts, memories, existence, joys, moments, and the hues of the sunlight on many tones of skin; I am breathing in the same air that was exhaled by many before me. The air that bore them life. And so how can I ever say that I am alone?” ~ C. JoyBell C.


P.S. Because of the many years of past conditioning and the intense training of holding onto things, giving up these toxic and limiting beliefs won’t happen over night, and that’s okay. Be patient and gentle with yourself while working on this process and remember to take one step at a time.
With all my love,




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